Do you trust your family to share their New Year’s resolutions for you?
Aren’t we all just a bit excited for the end of 2012 and the beginning of a new year? Recently, I seem to be focused on the necessary changes and improvements I plan to make in the coming year. Like almost everyone else in the blog-o-sphere, I, too, have created a list of resolutions.
But I am NOT going to share them with you. Aren’t I selfish!?!
This year I decided that my New Year’s resolutions were a bit tired (i.e. They haven’t changed much in the past few years). It is time to switch things up a bit and get some new ideas. And who better to ask than the 2 people who may know me best: my husband and daughter? At dinner last night, I mustered up the courage and requested that Adam and K share with me their own resolutions for the New Year as well as those that they would like me to make.
Here’s a brief synopsis of the conversation:
Round 1: What are YOUR resolutions for yourself?
- Daughter: To hang up my coat and practice my cello. (Editors Note: While I applauded her for being so specific, I asked that she stretch the “hang up my coat” resolution to putting all of her clothes away—not just her coat.)
- Husband: To keep my things organized and clean so I can’t be accused of being messy. (Perhaps a direct dig at me for not being more organized and for being SO messy but I chose not to ask for clarification lest we get off topic.)
- Me: To write at least one blog post every week and to be better organized. (Yes, this means get our files in order, shred those things that need to be shredded and get rid of the clutter in my office.)
Round 2: What are your resolutions for me?
- Daughter: “Stop using your phone all of the time. Every time that I am at a skating lesson, and I look up to see if you are watching me, you are looking at your phone. I want you to pay more attention to me and less to your phone.” (Point made.) “Also, I think that you should read more.” In other words, she likes it when I read to her at night and would like that to continue.
- Husband: Get your office in order and be more organized and on top of things. (Note: He wisely did not mention my blog. I guess he wanted to avoid arguments too.)
Round 3: (Now it was MY turn) What are my resolutions for each of them?
- Daughter: Better time management. Having never taken a Franklin Covey class in her 9 years, she asked me to clarify. I explained that I expected her to plan better so we weren’t chasing shoes, mittens, homework etc. moments before we were supposed to leave for school in the morning.
- Husband: (Now here’s the shocker—I could have chosen all sorts of things to ask him to do, like be less critical, help out more…but that’s not what I said.) “Stop and enjoy your life more. Stop rushing to go from here to there and enjoy ‘the show.’” The time flies by so fast and if he doesn’t take a moment, he is going to miss some of the greatest moments of his and our lives. I know I sound a bit like Ferris Bueller but I think it’s important to remind our loved ones that they have permission to enjoy their lives too.
I am not sure if they felt it too, but I am confident that this was an important conversation for our family to have before we start a new year together. At least each one of us has an idea of what the other members of our troop want for us. Clearly, I need to get it together and be more organized. My daughter needs to be more proactive and plan better. And my husband? Well, he needs to take some time to relax, get off of his phone and take a few moments to enjoy the flurry of life’s activities. Before we know it, things will change and we will miss these chaotic times.
Here’s my question for you: Are you brave enough to ask your family to share their resolutions for you? You might be surprised, or even pleased, with what is shared.