The day I have dreaded is upon us. K left for overnight camp this morning and I did a good job keeping it together until the very last moment. As I gave her the final hug goodbye, I broke down in tears. Yes, I BROKE DOWN…not the other way around. She didn’t shed a tear. I suppose you’re going to say that the mother crying because she is going to miss her child and not the child crying because she is going to miss her mother is a sign of good parenting. You know what I say? I really don’t care.
Let’s be clear; I wanted K to go to camp. Here are some of the reasons:
- Her absence allows my husband and I to go on a much needed GROWN UP vacation. This year we are headed to Africa with friends.
- She’s an only child which means K is around adults much of the time. Going to camp allows her to have an opportunity to live with and interact with other girls her age.
- She gets a break from some of the monotony and routine of home. Mixing it up and being in new situations allows for growth.
- Here’s a hard one for me: Being separated, while not ideal, does allow K and I to have a break and appreciate each other when we are together again. (i.e. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.)
- I can take an exercise class or workout whenever I want without having to worry about where K is and if she is having a good time.
- I can go to sleep whenever I want. Since I am the person who usually puts K to sleep, I also don’t go to sleep until she is out for the night. This can sometimes take longer than I would like.
- My husband and I can watch shows with “more mature” themes and language without worrying that K might wander in or be exposed to something we consider to be inappropriate.
- We don’t have to be role models. Yes, I said it. We CAN eat popcorn for dinner and not feel ashamed that a good example is not being set for our child
- There is more spontaneity in our life. (Interpret that as you see fit.) We can come and go as we please when we please without having to worry about getting a sitter–among other things.
- No Nick, Nick Jr. Nick Teen, Disney Channel or other child related shows or movies shall play in our house UNLESS we choose to play them. Yes, that means that I get control of the remote once in a while and don’t have to barter with my daughter for who gets to watch what when.